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Let’s Talk About (Gay) Sex: Cakes Da Killa

Gay sex seems to be some sort of enigmatic topic to straight people, who continuously ask us queers about “how does it work?” “what does it feel like?” and “but who’s the man and who’s the woman?” (seriously, what kind of question is that, though?). Mainly, this is from a lack of presentation of homosexuality in media– all of the music on the radio enforces heteronormative relations, and the same is common for most TV shows, movies, and advertisements.

That’s one of the reasons I love Cakes Da Killa. He has sex with men, and makes absolutely no attempt to hide it. Hearing a gay man so forward of his sex life is comforting when mainstream media, especially rap culture, is full of straight men and women showcasing their sexuality.

As soon as he first starts rapping on his new mixtape, it takes Cakes under 10 seconds to rap about having something in his butt. The majority of the tracks make at least one mention of sex, most of which are graphic descriptions. A few of the song titles follow suit, including “Get Right [Get Wet],” “Goodie Goodies,” “F*ck Ya Boifriend,” etc. None of this is surprising after his first mixtape, on which he begged for a “protein facial” and rapped about his “mussy” (and don’t worry, that term makes me just as uncomfortable as you).

However, Cakes said on his Facebook that on his “next project [he’s] not talking about sex at all,” and when I asked whom else to listen to for a similar experience, he responded with “maybe Trina?” (This emphasizes my point that the only other place to hear of sex in music is from the heterosexual standpoint.)

I sent him a message asking about it more seriously, but he never responded.

I understand that he wants to be known as more than being a gay rapper who only knows how to rap about sex. But, being so young and already garnering so much attention (only 21, he was recently signed to streetwear company Mishka’s music label; he has over 13,000 listens to single “Goodie Goodies” on SoundCloud), he has the potential to make it big and hype LGBT sex as a “normal” subject in rap and pop culture.

Leaving a large spectrum of sexuality out of culture and music is what causes it to be seen as abnormal, and we need people with talent, such as Cakes, to try to change that.

Last year he said no matter what he was going to rap about his sexual experiences and wanted to give a place to effeminate gay men a place to feel welcome, so I hope he decides to stay true to that.

Listen to his single below and download his new project, The Eulogy, for free.

Download The Eulogy Mixtape

Posted by on March 10, 2013. Filed under Entertainment,Music. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. Both comments and pings are currently closed.