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I Want You to Want Me–But Not Really.

How many times have you liked someone completely unattainable to you? This could mean liking someone who is already in a relationship, or something as ridiculous as adoring someone like Johnny Depp. Many of us know first hand that who we like seemingly has no rhyme or reason. We dream of the ones who don’t respond to our texts, and place those who give us the attention we “want” in the friend zone. So why do we do this?

There doesn’t seem to be a scientific basis for our reasoning. Maybe it’s some innate need for a challenge, or the media has taught us to long for the unattainable. Whatever the reason may be, we all do it in some way, some more severely than others.

For example: you break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and initially you feel content with your choice. That is until the second you think they are moving on. Once there is the slight possibility they don’t want you, you want them. This is not to generalize us all as selfish and attention-seeking companions but aren’t many of us in a way? Why is it that the hypothetical “nice guy” gets shafted to the friend zone? As Vertical Horizon would say, “he says all the right things, at exactly the right times. But he means nothing to you and you don’t know why.”

This isn’t to say nice guys always finish last, that’s not always the case. But for the single twenty-something, we seem to need a pursuit. We want to be challenged. Maybe the goal isn’t the end result; maybe it’s just the process in itself. So to the “nice guy” (or girl), give it a day before you respond to that text. Don’t change your nice guy ways, because once in a relationship, we all want that. Maybe just make it a little more of a chase. Kick it schoolyard style and ignore your crush a little. My hope is that once we grow up, the nice guys will finish first.

Posted by on March 29, 2013. Filed under Around Campus. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. Both comments and pings are currently closed.

2 Responses to I Want You to Want Me–But Not Really.

  1. christopherluke

    March 30, 2013 at 2:19 am

    the “nice guy” gets “shafted” because society has made it so that women are required to commit themselves to a “nice guy” and that their friendship is nothing more than a whack consolation prize. anyone who claims to be a “nice guy/girl” and questions why so and so doesn’t want to date them needs to idk find a new hobby.

  2. Karen Valentine

    October 12, 2013 at 10:11 am

    Great article about a subject that is difficult to put into words. You have it spot on for so many kids. It’s more fun to try to turn a bad boy into a good guy than to start with the good guy….